When Someone Gives You Their Soft Crabs

The life that we live in could be a million things except Easy. Life will never play it fair.

One of my favorite spoken-word poets (read: Sarah Kay) once said that this life will hit you hard in the face, wait for you to get back up just so it can kick you in the stomach. Yup, if you haven’t figured out yet, life can be that cruel, my friend. Here’s my favorite part of what she said, though: but getting the wind knocked out of you is the only way to remind your lungs how they liked the taste of air. There is hurt, here, that cannot be fixed by band-aids or poetry.

Yes, Hurt is real. So as Pain, Disappointment, Cynicism, Frustration, Depression, Chaos and All The Other Words That Don’t Equate to Hope — they’re real and they’re here. And sometimes, living the life won’t be a grand roller coaster ride that only goes up like what Augustus Waters believed it to be. It actually requires so much more than just the phrase “Only Goes Up.” It requires so much of who we are: it requires our presence to stay and to choose to live it through. Can you believe that out of all the things we can be gifted with in this lifetime, we were given this wonderful thing called Choice? And Choice is like the first love of Perspective. They kind of go together. Like, if you were to describe them scientifically, they probably conceived a baby who they named Chemistry.

We got choices. Everyday. On how we are willing view Life in. (I think I’ve written this a million times. Haha) And I hope that no matter how life disappoint your checklist of plans, you’d still give it a shot to surprise you, to make you smile, to take some of your time and make you observe the simple things that could bring you great joy. I hope you find joy in simple things. I hope you choose to find and keep joy, always.

You were given life, it is your duty (and also your entitlement as a human being) to find something beautiful within life, no matter how slight.

-Eat. Pray. Love.

One of the things which makes me really joyful and which I really find beauty in, is this simple acts of random kindness.

You know those things that you don’t expect to happen, things that are too ordinary sometimes that people take for granted, things that kind of stir your core because it’s the last thing you ever hoped Life would hand over to you because you wished for it quietly thinking nobody would ever consider it… And yet, someone did consider it, someone took action, someone held your doubts in exchange for extra smiles and taps on your back.

I don’t know about you but I can’t help but fall in love with humanity every single time people choose doing good; people choose serving and meeting other people’s needs before theirs; people choose being kind.

I’ve seen it…

When someone gives you their soft crabs just because it’s your first time eating it, that even if it’s their favorite dish, they’d willingly take it from their plate to put it on yours. When someone volunteered to help you clean up the training room after you sent your partner away because she’s celebrating her first year anniversary with her boyfriend. When someone offers you a seat at the joint male-female area of the train and securing a vacant seat on your side and offering it to another lady. When someone take your photos with the Chinese birthday greet signs for your friend. When someone believed in your typography skills and declare that they’re your number one fan. When someone tells you that your haircut looks great on you. When you can’t count all the someones in your life that showed you random kindness. When you realize that I used when and not if in this whole paragraph because I am a believer that people got it in their bones. That I-will-try-to-be-a-rainbow-in-somebody’s-cloud kind of kindness in their bones. And that, that is what they’ll be going for in the end.

I’ve seen all of it. You’ve seen all of it, too. You’ve got your own stories to tell and I pray that you don’t let your own stories fade. We don’t live an easy life. We may not figure out everything about it, either. We only got choices. I hope we always choose to do what’s right (and what’s kind).